You bring up an excellent point right here:

"At some point shall we stop and ask those who 'demand' tolerance, for a road-map of what it is that they "want"?"

I brought up a similar question to several people who were aghast at the fact that I disagreed with the government having any role whatsoever in "gay" marriage (or for that matter, marriage period).

I got called "closed-minded", "bigot", yadda yadda yadda.

That tactic doesn't work on me.

I'm a truck driver. I get called worse multiple times throughout a day.

But I calmly asked them this question: So you will find a church that will recognize your marriage. Good for you both.

Now, how will you go about "persuading" other churches that do not, to do the same?