...the kids taking over the entire school and only an occasional deviant (former) city council president trying to get into the pants of someone he was trusted to mentor.
You bring up an excellent point right here:
"At some point shall we stop and ask those who 'demand' tolerance, for a road-map of what it is that they "want"?"
I brought up a similar question to several people who were aghast at the fact that I disagreed with the government having any role whatsoever in "gay" marriage (or for that matter, marriage period).
I got called "closed-minded", "bigot", yadda yadda yadda.
That tactic doesn't work on me.
I'm a truck driver. I get called worse multiple times throughout a day.
But I calmly asked them this question: So you will find a church that will recognize your marriage. Good for you both.
Now, how will you go about "persuading" other churches that do not, to do the same?